Wednesday, July 13, 2005



The relationship between Craig and Anthony is about the most interesting thing on Big Brother at the moment. Craig (the camp repressed gay one) is in love with Anthony (the so butch-he's camp "straight" one). The two are inseperable and constantly touching each other. Anthony recently told Craig he's never had a friend like him before and he never expected that he'd be his favourite person in the Big Brother House. When Anthony gets drunk and "cavorts" in the pool with the girls, Craig is mortified and tearful. In one notable speech he announced "I'm the bitch, I'm the submissive!" and warned Anthony that he's the only person who's allowed to look after him. Although they have not had sex, there have been several sublimated sexual incidents, usually involving water fights or sun-tan lotion "Anthony! You got it in my eye!"

I suspect that if the cameras were switched off for 24 hours, the relationship would reach a new level of intimacy. It reminds me of those close friendships between men that develop in closed-off institutions, like prisons or ships in the Merchant Navy. Fifty years ago Craig would have been a steward on one of those big cruise liners while Anthony would have worked in the boiler-room. They would have shared a cabin, which Craig would have kept beautifully (little touches like frilly curtains around the portholes), making all the sandwiches and cups of tea like a good "wife". And even though Anthony would have a girl in every port, it'd be Craig who'd keep him warm on those long nights at sea.

One of the strange by-products of gay liberation in the 1970s in the West, is that it's forced more people to take sides. People don't choose to be gay or straight, but they can choose to live a gay or straight lifestyle. And with those lifestyle choices come polarisations. So in cultures which have not experienced gay liberation, homosexuality is very prevalent among men like Anthony, the fact it is not talked about or labelled as gay, makes it possible. Ironically, once the cat is out the bag, it becomes more difficult for "straight men" to enjoy a blow-job from a mate. As Kinsey found, bisexuality is much more prevalent than we think, although bisexuality is discussed much less often in our society than homosexuality (or even something relatively rare like transsexualism - I've done studies that back this up incidentally). Perhaps though, once Gay Liberation or (whatever the movement has morphed into) has achieved its goals and it is finally utterly acceptable and OK to be gay, then people like Anthony won't mind whether the cameras are turned on or off. Let's hope so. Those boys are missing out on an awful lot of fun.

2 comments:

mike said...

This is my favourite Craig/Anthony pic.

Groc said...

you've come close to my fantasy of a re-mixed idea of a Big Brother containing all-men and mixed sexualities and leaving them all in the house just to see what sexual co-minglings do eventually emerge...

But so far - the program makers are only allowed to tease at such ideas...


groc